What up everyone!
So, I have a lot of female friends. I’m always asking them questions about relationships to get a better feel for one. Experience is definitely the best teacher. In my opinion you can’t tell me how to drive if you don’t have a car(get it?). Anyway to the point….Why are you with her? What is the purpose or goal of your encounter? You see we meet people at different points in our lives. We have to admit that sometimes when we meet folk even though we are attracted to them our shit just may not be together. Sometimes it’s just easier to wait? But what if I never see her again? This is the type of thinking that gets us in trouble. Maybe it’s the ass, maybe it’s the smile(pretty sure it’s the ass) but, whatever it is its a recipe for disaster. Sometimes men like to think that SHE revolves around our timeline. Not true…you see she’s with you while you’re in “play mode” . She’s with you through the late night random phone calls and during that other chick who is “just your friend”. While you’re playing she’s serious. While you’re “growing up” shes already mature.You know why?……Because she knows what she want. However you…that’s another story. You’re busy focusing on what you “could have” or what you “could lose”. But, if you’re not done playing why not be SINGLE and do it on your own time instead of hers? Hmmm now that’s a good question…you see we sometimes don’t think about her feelings. Selfish I know but, the reality of it is we are scared to be alone. So we seek in other women something that’s been in our bed the ENTIRE time but we are to busy looking every where else except on our own door step. So immature we are. OhHHH so now you’re ready to be committed? Now you’re ready to be faithful? You are ready to be serious 3 years later. After all the tears, after all the fights, after the frequent dealings in other woman now look who has come around and grew up. Interesting now you’re mad because you’re trying to figure out who’s texting her 2 in the morning. Is she really sitting up in your bed playing candy crush or is it something more?
You see while you were sleeping good at night those past 3 years she was accepting and hoping you would become who you “say” you are now. She was up healing and coping with the fact that you just cheating for the 3rd time. Now you want to question her loyalty? Pleaaseee, step outside of yourself and have several seats. She doesn’t work around your timeline. She isn’t something you could just sit on the shelf and pick up later to impress your parents. While you are looking for a trophy there is someone entertaining her now that’s interested in her soul. See you don’t think “IT” could happen to you however, nobody’s safe from the truth. So while you are up at night now SHE sleeps comfortably with a smile on her face. Now your problems become complaints, your cares become issues, because when she was open to you…you weren’t there and could care less on several occasions. So why do you care now? What has transpired? OH you finally decided to grow up? Truth is you were already grown up. You just decided what was important to you when she already knew. Your priorities are now in perspective…good for you. However, she has become someone different. She’s not as concerned as she use to be. Shes open to being alone and she DOESN”T TRUST YOU. Shes not going above and beyond for you . You know WHY? Because you decide to notice it now doesn’t mean she has’t done it already. When she was going above and beyond you were sleep. When she was trying to show you her you wanted to go out and party! So don’t trip now that she’s not paying you ANY attention at ALL! So, before you decide to leave, before you decide to give up, when you start thinking that nothing is working because shes not letting you in. Remember on thing my friend….YOU MADE HER THAT WAY.She shouldn’t trust yo sorry ass because shes not falling for the same shit over and over again. She shouldn’t put up with you or give you another chance. You abuse privilege. You don’t know a good thing if it slapped you in your face. She remembers! Yes she forgave but she will NEVER FORGET. So now that you made that bed lay yo ass right in it. Don’t be a man when its convenient for YOU! Man UP negro! Now your feelings are on the line. Don’t like the feeling Huh? But, One things certain….YOU MADE HER THAT WAY!
Mid-Day Thoughts
Own It…Part 2 the female side coming later tonight!!!! THanks for REading!
Michael D.
For the record, this applies both ways. Some people take their relationships for granted. We should never take RELATIONSHIPS, people, people’s feelings and LIFE for granted. For every action there is a reaction…..
Yes I truly agree it goes both ways..and yes LIFE does consist of cause and effect. I can relate to this blog. I am thankful for every experience because it and "HE" has made me who I am now and who I am becoming…a BETTER WOMAN EACH DAY. Good blog Michael. Blessings!